• Death's Threshold

    "It is an honor to express my absolute gratitude for the work that Loren does. She has brought ease and comfort into my process of dying. Her willingness to walk shoulder to shoulder right up to the threshold of death, without hesitation, is remarkable. Her clear guidance has made such a difference for me and my family. Her experience and skill set around the dying process far outreaches most modern-day explorations. I cannot imagine going through this transition without her..." ~Marti D.

    During my 15 years as a hospice Chaplain & Spiritual Counselor, I have born witness to the countless ways in which our medical and insurance systems undermine the continuity of support necessary to provide proper depth of care, healing and closure at end-of-life.

     

    I was thus deeply impassioned to create Radiant Passage to address what I found lacking—a spiritually centered end-of-life care model that provides a comprehensive continuity of spiritual support, education and counsel for the dying and their loved ones.

     

     

    The uniqueness of this model lies in:

     

    • The sacred trust that evolves over the course of a relationship that spans the many thresholds of experience encountered by the dying and their loved ones during the end-of-life journey, from diagnosis until death.

    The scope and diversity of support provided, includes:

     

    I. Practical assistance to living wills, advanced directives and final arrangements.

     

    II. Ongoing education providing physical, emotional and spiritual contextualization to the dying process.

     

    III. Simultaneous counseling offered to the grief, loss and healing processes of the dying as well as their family or circle of loved ones.

     

    IV. Closely attending the many spiritual layers and needs of the dying, inclusive of: relational and personal healing; creating-of-sacred-space; ceremonial tending of the thresholds.

     

    I strongly believe this unique model begins to make possible the extent of care that the profound transition of dying deserves, as well as honoring the life-changing impact death has on all who encounter it.

     

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  • The 5 Phases of Dying

    Phase I

    A Time of Orientation & Preparation

    Approximately 4-6 months out

    Support to turn toward the physical, emotional and spiritual realities of living with a terminal illness, at a time when life-sustaining treatments may still be relevant, and quality of life vs. treatment is a central consideration.  

    Phase II

     A Time of Paradox

    Approximately 1-3 months out

    Support to a time when focus on life may still be dominant, but disease progress and symptom management creates limitations. Hospice is usually involved here. Inquiry may shift toward an increasing need for the dying to feel anchored in the spiritual world to which they are headed.

    Phase III

     A Time of Transition

    Approximately 1-3 weeks out

    Support to a time in the dying process marked by slowing down and drawing inward. There is a palpable sense of the dying being “between the worlds” of inner/outer, body/spirit.

    For loved ones, this can be a challenging time as they witness their beloved receding from relationship, while still being physically present.

    Phase IV

     A Time of Veils Thinning

    Approximately 1-3 days, to hours out

    Support to the period of “active labor” of the dying process where the body gradually begins shutting down and the dying become largely non-responsive as they move from identification with a body toward what lies beyond.

    Phase V

     Death.

    A Time of Release

    Support to promoting a space of deep presence, care, love and peace around the dying, facilitating any desired elements of ceremony, and providing guidance for post-death vigil period (if desired).

  • Click Here to view the complete services of the 5 Phases in PDF form

  • Grief Support

    "Both my parents passed away within a year of each other. Loren’s emotional and spiritual guidance helped me live through the overwhelming grief with an ever-expanding love for my Mom and Dad. What could have been an overwhelming loss was transformed into a sacred process - beautiful and profound..." ~David R.

    Grief is a mysterious yet trustworthy process that seeks expression. It is the very process by which we transform our lives from a world

    interconnected with our beloved, to one wherein we can rediscover

    joy and vitality, while still honoring their absence. It is not a sign that something is wrong with us, it is a sign that the processes of nature are working in and on us accurately. The deeper our attachment to our beloved, the deeper this unwinding necessarily must be. If offered a consistent space to be honored, felt and allowed, grief itself becomes a pathway of profound growth and healing.

     

    Grief counseling provides:

    • Support to the naming, honoring and expression of grief with an emphasis on the body as resource and ally
    • Support to the client’s capacity to titrate or dose the grief process so as not to become overwhelmed by it
    • Working with developing the client’s inner, outer and spiritual resources that form the container for grief to be expressed and experienced in a balanced and safe way
    • Providing ongoing context and normalization for the client to be able to place their unique and personal journey within the larger map of grief’s terrain
  • Memorial Services

    A memorial ceremony provides a sacred chalice for remembering, honoring, celebrating and grieving, both the presence and absence of the loved one who has passed. Ideally, memorials are also pivotal thresholds for the living to ritualize their grief within community, and take the first steps across the threshold of life after loss.

     

    Memorial support includes:

    • Support to the family co-create a container that can become filled by the sacred elements, words, objects and memories that appropriately honor their loved one's legacy. 
    • Helping the family mark this important threshold of grief and mourning.   
    • Creation of a sermon drawn from the legacy, history and impact of the loved one's life, and offered as the ‘story' that anchors their memorialization.
    • Creating intentional space for the family to be strongly held, to grieve and to receive the story of their loved one within the circle of community witness and love.